100% | #30Layers30Days:Day 4

    Today's writing challenge is writing about an area where you don't feel you are showing,or putting in 100% . To answer this, I would respond with being assertive. This effects my relationships and roles in life.I still have passion and dreams  that I want to achieve, however, I am not being assertive in what  I want from myself and others as well.

    I had my first internship this summer at a reality TV production company. It was a lot more fun and laid back than I expected. At the end of the internship, after I said my byes, and my exit interview was conducted I spoke to one of my supervisors. She told me that the main advice she had for me was to be more assertive , and in this industry you need to be.  I wasn't surprised that was her advice, because I am quiet and soft-spoken. However, it stuck to me , because it was something I wanted to improve for a long time.

    Sometimes, I feel that if I become assertive to others I will hurt their feelings or strain relationships. But what I have come to learn this past month, is that if you do not become assertive not in what you say, but in your actions then you may not be taken seriously as you would like.

     As for myself, I think I can be harsh on myself with thought, but I won't sometimes take the necessary actions to improve my situations. I suddenly become laid-back and  a self-doubter. I'm learning now that assertiveness does not have to be as harsh as aggressiveness. There's no need for a stank attitude, but I should demand more for myself. I can learn to surprise people,and tell them no. Just need to tell myself to work harder and push my self so that I won't slip and fall.

      I want to be able to show the world, what this shy, quiet girl can do when she sets her mind to it. To be assertive is to also know my information, and to know what it is  I'm talking about, but I've seen confident people ramble on about things they know nothing about--anyway now I'm rambling lol!  I hope I've made my point!

Quote of the Day:
“To be great, be whole;
Exclude nothing, exaggerate nothing that is not you.
Be whole in everything. Put all you are
Into the smallest thing you do.
So, in each lake, the moon shines with splendor
Because it blooms up above.” 
― Fernando Pessoa, Poems of Fernando Pessoa




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FAVORITE MISTAKE | #30Layers30Days: Day 3

My favorite mistake, is when I learned that I was emitting bad energy to my life. I looked back into a car accident I had years ago.It was my first car and my first year of college in a different  state. A cop had smashed into me, and losing control of the vehicle I smashed into a house. Luckily, I was alive and left unscathed. My witnesses proclaimed that I was a good driver, but I really  knew someone above was watching me that day.

    I couldn't believe this was happening to me. "I'm a good person!" I thought to my self, ''why do bad things keep happening to me?" It was a mixture of feeling thankful and yet angry at the situation. Fast-forward to years later I realized that I caused the crash,

   I read Iyanla Vanzant's book..... It helped me realize that I was the one emitting negative energy and with that negative things would happen. They also talk about this in The Secret as well. During that time, i was heavily depressed, I hated my new school, I felt alone, defeated, and unsure of my future...if there was a future. I hated everyone, and thta hate grew as I walked on campus.That energy I felt towards everyone and soon myself was what probably caused the crash.

Of course, it was the police officer's fault who hit me. But if I had exuded more positivity and not hatred, my life would reflect that as well. So now , I've learned and it is one of the most important lessons I try to take with me everyday.

Quote of the Day:
“You are essentially who you create yourself to be and all that occurs in your life is the result of your own making.” 
― Stephen Richards, Think Your way to Success: Let Your Dreams Run Free



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JOY SNATCHERS / #30Layers30Days:Day 2

    This post is kind of late. School is no joke, but I am determined to keep writing. Today's post is about joy snatchers. I have had my share of joy snatchers in the past and the present. Those joy snatchers just leave a deep, smelly hole inside of you. Unfortunately, I've found out that some joy snatchers are deeper than others.

    Recently bill collecters and the lack of money have become joy snatchers.  I'm at the age still figuring out what I want to do with my life, looking for jobs while juggling school plus extracurricular activities, and right now the career that brings me the best salary is what motivates me . Before, it was finding my passion and doing that as career but it's becoming less than likely as I  become an adult. 

   Another joy snatcher is my comparison to others. I compare my weight, my looks, my friends, my career choices, relationships to others around me almost subconsciously. It does nothing but dig the hole deeper to where gnats and creepy crawlers can gnaw away as  my joy detoriates.

   However, the number one joy snatcher that definetly triumphs all is self-doubt. Whenever I try to think of hope or optimism, my past reminds me of my struggles and laughs at my efforts of bringing myself back up. I don't know if this happens to other people but sometimes it just creeps up unwanted, and I have to snap out of it. However, the good thing about me is that hope continues to glimmer through the hole.

   The things I can do to minimize its influnce is read motivational books (right now I am reading The Four Agreements ), take time for myself, surround myself with positive influences, write daily gratitudes, and immediately change my negative thoughts to positive ones.

   Mostly, however, I need to put more effort. I need to push myself, not just say but do. So that maybe next year at this time self-doubt will no longer be a factor. So, yes, I believe that I have the power to eliminate my joy snatchers and eventually the hole inside will be completely filled back up.



Quote of The Day:

“Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.”
― Dr. Seuss





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P.S- This is my 50th post yay! *busts open a bottle of champagne*

START.STOP.CONTINUE | #30Layer30Days: Day 1

  Hello everyone, this month is going to be special. I am just starting school again, and it is also sickle cell awareness month! My organization GSCW will be doing fun things this month to bring a much needed awareness for sickle cell! Also this month is GG Renee (of All the Many Layers)'s  30 Layers 30 Days challenge. I signed up for this challenges, because I love challenges and this challenge will help me through self discovery and renewal. So without further ado, here is the first prompt:


START
I want to start taking myself seriously. I want to start  communicating better. I am not sure why, but the last few months I have been cutting people off unintentionally. I have let my sadness stop me from doing things that I love or keep me from trying harder at making myself happy. I want to start determination, and start vlogging, and blogging again, you know, doing things that I enjoy again. To start taking care of my health mentally and physically and really focus on becoming a better me, and believing in myself. I want more love, more happiness, to start dating and hanging out with friends again. The baby step  I can start is checking off the list of tasks, and telling myself I can do it. I want to start my journey and never stop or put it on hold again.

STOP
There needs to be a definite stop in my procrastination. To stop thinking and saying negative thoughts about myself, or anyone. To stop expecting too much from friends and family. What I am tolerating or feeding off of is my lack of energy and drive. I think that I also need to stop wasting time and money that doesn't help me to achieve my goals, but instead hurts me in the end.

CONTINUE
To dream, and dream big, and not let anyone deter me from my dreams. To show off my talents and continue letting people know what I can and will do. I  can  also continue being nice when people test me, haha! But on a serious note, I think that I should continue to follow my goals, and to inspire myself and others as well.

Quote of the Day-
"A bridge of silver wings stretches from the dead ashes of an unforgiving nightmare
to the jeweled vision of a life started anew.” 
― Aberjhani, Journey through the Power of the Rainbow: Quotations from a Life Made Out of Poetry

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